Why Falling Back into Old Habits is Essential for Change

It’s a concept that took me ages to truly grasp, until I’d done it enough times to understand that temporarily falling back into old habits is normal — and an integral part of the healing process.

Joni Seeto
4 min readJun 2, 2021
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Since deep emotional healing (and subsequent lasting change) only happens when we are truly ready for it, it’s typically preceded by a period of major resistance.

Here’s how this tends to go down.

1 — Desire for change

We start to sense (consciously or unconsciously) that the current situation we’re in is no longer serving us, and that we are ready for change.

2 — Resistance

In order to grow beyond our current level, we’ll need to face any old beliefs, feelings that are blocking our growth.

But those beliefs, feelings or blocks were initially created by the ego (our survival instinct) to keep us safe. Meaning that if we release those old beliefs or feelings, from the perspective of the ego, we are consciously putting ourselves in harm’s way.

Which is scary sh*t.