How to Stop Worrying About What Other People Think of You

Isn’t it about time we release the weight of other people’s opinions of us?

Joni Seeto
4 min readJun 2, 2021

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Photo by Alexei Scutari on Unsplash

When I finally put an end to my lifelong struggle with food and weight, I experienced a sense of inner peace I didn’t even know existed.

For the first time in my life I felt… weightless.

Feeling Weightless isn’t just about feeling comfortable in your skin and making peace with food (although those sure are great side-effects), it’s also about releasing anything that weighs on you and stops you from truly being yourself.

Like, other people’s opinions of you.

  • How much time do we spend worrying about what other people think of us?
  • How often do we avoid speaking up because we’re afraid we might say the wrong thing?
  • And how many times do we hide our true selves because we just don’t think we’re good enough?

That sh*t weighs on you, man.

The physical weight on our bodies is often just a representation of the mental and emotional load we’re carrying.

And that stuff doesn’t release through diets alone.

Understanding these 3 things really helped me release the weight of other people’s opinions of me.

1 — Back in the day, worrying about what other people thought of us was essential for our survival

Thousands of years ago when we were roaming around the African planes, being accepted by the tribe was essential for our survival. Because 50 people going up against a tiger — pretty safe, right? But one person alone? Not so much.

Avoiding rejection is a primal instinct that’s been instilled deeply within, and still affects us to this day. And it’s all because, back in the day, rejection by the tribe would have guaranteed our death.

These days, however, we can survive rejection. There’s no more tigers lurking around the corner waiting to jump out at us. And most rejection actually happens in our own minds.

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