Even when it’s well-intentioned

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As I walked into the kitchen this morning to make myself a cup of tea, my cleaner put down his spray bottle, pointed his finger straight at my face and exclaimed in broken English: “Double chin! You have double chin!”

Confused, I looked back at him and responded: “OK… so what?”

Again, he repeated: “Double chin! Double chin!”

“Yes,” I answered, “I have a double chin but… what’s the problem?”

He started to look a little uncomfortable, yet continued: “You more fat now. Is no good.” Nodding his head, he again mumbled: No good. No good.”

Thoughts started flooding through…

What if our food cravings were actually a symptom of something else?

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There’s nothing worse than the feeling of not being able to stop eating.

You want to, but you can’t. Despite your best intentions, it’s like a part of you takes over and just eats, and eats, and eats, leaving you feeling completely powerless over food.

People who’ve never struggled with food can’t quite grasp this. When in passing you complain about how much weight you’ve gained recently, they respond by saying: “Well, just don’t eat as much then.”

Sigh. If only it was that easy.

Because God knows you’ve tried. My guess is that you’ve tried just about every single…

Until a single sentence in a book turned my life upside down

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I remember this day as if it was yesterday.

It was a cold winter morning, and I was sitting at the kitchen table reading a book on addiction by Dr. Gabor Maté. Suddenly, as my eyes darted across the page, my heart started pounding so fast it almost jumped into my throat.

I had originally picked up this book to research the topic of addiction so I could help my clients better. Up until this point, I’d never considered myself truly addicted to anything. …

Being able to name the struggle might be the exact thing you need to heal

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These days, as a Binge Eating Therapist, I talk a lot about both binge eating and emotional eating. But even just a short few years ago, despite the fact that I was doing both on an almost weekly basis, I had no idea they even existed.

I‘d never heard of the term binge eating, and my idea of emotional eating consisted of eating a pint of ice cream after a break-up like you see in the movies.

I didn’t know that when I used to get stressed and overwhelmed at work — so much so that I’d call in sick…

Isn’t it about time we release the weight of other people’s opinions of us?

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When I finally put an end to my lifelong struggle with food and weight, I experienced a sense of inner peace I didn’t even know existed.

For the first time in my life I felt… weightless.

Feeling Weightless isn’t just about feeling comfortable in your skin and making peace with food (although those sure are great side-effects), it’s also about releasing anything that weighs on you and stops you from truly being yourself.

Like, other people’s opinions of you.

  • How much time do we spend worrying about what other people think of us?
  • How often do we avoid speaking up…

It’s a concept that took me ages to truly grasp, until I’d done it enough times to understand that temporarily falling back into old habits is normal — and an integral part of the healing process.

Women lying on a bed, crying into a blanket
Women lying on a bed, crying into a blanket
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Since deep emotional healing (and subsequent lasting change) only happens when we are truly ready for it, it’s typically preceded by a period of major resistance.

Here’s how this tends to go down.

1 — Desire for change

We start to sense (consciously or unconsciously) that the current situation we’re in is no longer serving us, and that we are ready for change.

2 — Resistance

In order to grow beyond our current level, we’ll need to face any old beliefs, feelings that are blocking our growth.

But those beliefs, feelings or blocks were initially created by the ego (our survival instinct) to keep us safe. Meaning that…

Woman sitting in the bath eating instant noodles out of a plastic container
Woman sitting in the bath eating instant noodles out of a plastic container
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I was watching a TV-show yesterday in which one of the main characters had started to drink more, to the point where it was affecting their performance at work.

One of their colleagues confronted them and said: “You really have to get your drinking under control. It’s not good for you.”

It made me think of the millions of articles and social media posts that are screaming at us on a daily basis to stop eating too much or to stop eating unhealthy foods because it’s not good for us.

Here’s why that is some really unhelpful advice.

1 — They already know

9 times…

Joni Seeto

Therapist on a mission to raise awareness about binge eating. What’s really fuelling your food cravings? FREE quiz: https://joniseeto.com/decode-your-cravings

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